Haryana State Legal Services Authority stressed upon the importance of best interests of the children in custody cases which can be achieved only if all stake-holders play a constructive and a child-centric pro-active role, which includes a highly sensitized and child friendly court ambience.
With phrases like “a satisfied life is more meaningful than a materialistic successful life” and “don’t let 3 letters word Ego destroy 12 letters word Relationship”. Listeners were motivated to focus on family issues with an open mind, so that a child’s tender mind does not bear the burnt of adults’ ego related quarrels. Explaining the ill-effects of Parental Alienation Syndrome on child’s emotional, physical and psychological growth, turning them into insecure adults; which is not good for over-all development of society and health of the society. Various suggestions including active involvement of social workers, psychologists, different approach of lawyers and judges in child custody matters were also discussed by the Judge.
Gagandeep Kaur, Secretary, High Court Legal Services Committee, Punjab, Haryana High Court, Chandigarh while introduced the topic and welcomed all the distinguished speakers. Dr. Amod Dalvi, a visiting Psychiatric Consultant in Kent Health Services, England and Honorary Senior Lecturer Kings College London, joined the webinar from England to apprise the audience through well researched/prepared slides of PPT about different facets of PAS; the symptoms in the children which includes low self-esteem; addictions etc.; the long term impact on attachment styles of children influencing all their future relationships, if they are made/brainwashed to hate one parent on the instigation of another parent.
Monika, Associate Professor, Department of Laws, Central University of Haryana Mohindergarh made the audience aware about different provisions law dealing with child custody by explaining that “hatred does not come naturally to the children”. In case the separation between the parents becomes inevitable, all efforts should be made to ensure that child gets love from both the parents and does not hate anyone, which is possible if the courts award joint custody to both the parents.